I wrote this article in the spirit of my new course called I Am Love. Loving yourself should be a natural thing for everyone to do. However, if you are a people pleaser and over-giver like I use to be then it didn’t come too natural to you. I was having a conversation with my love last night about this very topic. I started to really love myself and care for myself since my deep depression. Now, when people come at me with very negative or selfish energy I remove myself.
I learned a few things from my depression that is very key when having to make hard decisions.
- I take full responsibility for myself and my life.
- Sometimes you have to allow endings to come for something better to come along.
- I am responsible for my true happiness.
- When I set boundaries with myself and others it is my responsibility to uphold them.
Now, I care too much about my sanity, my health, my mindset, and my energy to allow anyone to take that from me. I finally figured out how to balance pleasing and giving to my loved one without taking from myself. You can do the same thing!
It’s easy to look for love outside of yourself. However, I promise you that you will still feel that you lack love. Especially, if people who you love disappoint you or hurt you and then you feel like your life will come to an end. When you are depressed you want the pain and hurt to go away quickly because you are comfortable with the feeling of lack. I am here to reassure you that you do not lack due to someone or something. You show and give love because you are love.
Here are 16 things you can do right now to make yourself feel good:
- Build your self-esteem
- Careless what others think of you
- Learn to say no when you mean no
- Respect yourself and your values
- Learn to love yourself for all that you are; the good and the bad
- Tap into your power
- Spend some alone time with yourself
- Stop comparing yourself to other people
- Take care of your outer self
- Treat yourself every now and then to your favorite spot
- Dress Yourself
- Spoil yourself with therapeutic remedies
- Put a little makeup on that beautiful face
- Join the I Am Love 7 Day Course
“Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” – Buddha
In the comments below, let me know another way you show love to yourself.
- My name is Siedah (Si-ee-dah), writer and life coach author at www.iamlovexo.com
- I’ve suffered from depression on and off for 15 years of my life and I no longer deal with it.
- I’ve battled with social anxiety almost all my life and I no longer have it.
- I met with two therapists within a year span but it only scratched the surface
- I healed myself within a three-year span and completely changed my life