I remember three years ago, I was sitting in the living room couch crying my eyes out, with the volume of the TV turned high so I won’t wake my now ex-husband who laid sound asleep upstairs. I remember night after night and whenever I was alone with enough time to reflect on my life I would sit and cry. I didn’t know I was in a deep depression at the time. I was supposed to be happy according to everyone else. Loss and constant change can be difficult to deal with in any capacity. Whether that is a loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job, etc.
If you want true happiness, abundance, prosperity, and peace know that it starts and ends with you. The key is to not ignore your issues or suppress them. This is not an opportunity for you to put more pressure on yourself while you read this. This is an opportunity for you to take control of your life and do what is necessary for you to live a healthy and loving life because you deserve that and much more. We don’t always realize we are in a deep depression until it is too late. I’d like to make you more self-aware and start taking steps to change for the better.
Here are 5 signs you need to seek support when faced with depression:
1. Thoughts of suicide or disappearing.
I’ve been here plenty of times myself in the past. When your thoughts get this far this is a clear indication that you need to seek professional help. Don’t hesitate to get help. You are getting help so you can heal yourself. Below are links to two great resources that will help you get the support you need to get started.
2. Not taking care of yourself: physically, emotionally, or mentally.
It is common to get stuck in the negative self-talk and ignore all the things you use to do for yourself. It is first and foremost your responsibility to care and love for yourself. When we are in a depressive state we tend to depend on others for our care. When those people don’t meet our expectation or let us down we become more in a funk than we were before. Whether this is a spouse, child, boss, friend or family member.
It is key to not look for validation outside of yourself. It is key to take things one day at a time. If you only shower, brush your teeth and eat breakfast then you are making a commitment to your morning.
I’ve created a DAILY GOAL PLANNER that will help you plan your day. Print this planner out and post it by your bedside or in the bathroom so you can read it when you first go to bed and then go to bed.
Morning Goal: ___________________________.
Example: Shower, brush my teeth, eat a healthy breakfast.
Afternoon Goal: ___________________________.
Example: Do yoga for 20 minutes and eat a light lunch.
Evening Goal: ___________________________.
Example: Mediate, light my essential oils, and get a decent 6-8 hour of sleep.
3. Suppressing your emotions by escaping your problems through food, sex, drugs, alcohol, partying, tv, drama, etc.
It is not hard nowadays to access drugs, alcohol, or party your life away if you so choose. However, this is just a coping mechanism that will not make your problems disappear. I’ve learned that health is all about moderation. Know your limits and remain aware of self. Research shows that someone who is depressed is more likely to find a coping mechanism in order to avoid their problems. Please let me say that avoiding your problems is only a temporary fix.
4. Crying randomly or for several days at a time.
Depression can take a toll on your emotional and physical state. Journal how you are feeling at every moment. This will help you when referring back to those moments when speaking to a professional. And more importantly, journaling will help you release those emotions you are having at that very moment. Releasing is extremely important to you right now. Don’t hold all that anger or sadness.
5. Spend a lot of time alone and sleep.
When you are sleeping longer than 12 hours a day than I recommend you seek a professional. Personally sleeping allowed me to be a state of mind where I can avoid my problems. Just to drift off in another state was a great way to escape my problems temporarily. Your emotional state doesn’t just go away because you have slept your day away. You might wake up still groggy and feel tired. Instead of refreshed and energized.
If you can’t sleep which some people might find it difficult to sleep because there is so much on their mind. I recommend listening to white noise, soft music, and having a diffuser with lavender essential oils going in your room. It works tremendously for me.
Resources and more information on depression:
- Good Therapy: Depression
- 8 Signs You Should See A Therapist
- Signs of Depression in Children [Infographic]
- How to Help Someone with Depression
Depression is treatable. Just know that it is not the end of your world because you are depressed. Your days won’t stay dark and gloomy. The sun will shine again. I just recommend you take control of your life and seek the help you need in order for the sun to shine sooner than later.
I am a firm believer that self-love plays a huge role in your healing process. Within my 7-day I AM LOVE online course, I walk you through activities to do each day to help down the self-love path. I’ve dealt with depression throughout my life and recently two years ago. I want to make sure you take day-to-day you work towards being a happier and healthier YOU.
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- My name is Siedah (Si-ee-dah), writer and life coach author at www.iamlovexo.com
- I’ve suffered from depression on and off for 15 years of my life and I no longer deal with it.
- I’ve battled with social anxiety almost all my life and I no longer have it.
- I met with two therapists within a year span but it only scratched the surface
- I healed myself within a three-year span and completely changed my life