We experience stress in our daily lives in many different ways and we all handle stress and depression differently. You might be experiencing stress because you’re having a financial hardship, workplace issues, your dealing with a breakup or divorce, have relationship issues, family issues, wellness or physical issues.
Personally, I have to say that I look at stress much differently now than I once did. Before, I took on the victim role when it came to uncomfortable situations that occurred in my life. Sometimes I would be quiet and try to avoid stressful situations and that didn’t make the situation go away. Sometimes I would react with anger, pride, or ego and that didn’t really accomplish anything.
As you mature, you realize that reaction isn’t the best way to nip negativity or stress in the butt. When you respond in a manner that is true for your authentic self.
Suggestion one: step back and check in with yourself about this situation or person.
The is a great technique to use when you are in a situation that is difficult and stressful. Ask yourself, what is really going on here? How do I want to feel about this situation or person? What is the end result that I desire for myself and the situation I am in? What is triggering me?
This is a time for self-reflection and analyzing yourself. Don’t just analyze the other person(s). When you are conscious of who you are and why you do what you do then you can make decisions that benefit you. It is not worth being depressed.
First, you must decide what it is what you want to do and how you want to feel and make the first step towards change. It is important to think about yourself and your life because you matter.
Suggestion two: don’t swim in your emotions.
The point of emotions isn’t to stay stannic. You can control your emotions instead of letting your emotions control you. Train yourself to not stay in the feelings for too long. The best decision-making you can do for yourself is to make a decision out of love. That can be love for yourself and/or others.
Be patient with yourself as you make this transition of mindset. 99% of our human conditioning is caused by our mindset. You must change the way you think so that you may change the way you live.
“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins
By being aware of yourself and your surroundings you will make rational decisions that would ultimately benefit you in the long run. Meeting negativity with negativity will only result in more negativity. Refuse a situation by taking a step away, think about the situation and the result you desire, and then calmly and respectfully try to resolve the issue the best you can.
Note: if you can’t resolve your issues yourself please ask for help.
Suggestion three: belief in yourself and your ability to take responsibility for your life.
It’s not enough to just allow things to happen to you. Or allow people to stay in your life that isn’t healthy for you. Envision, feel, and believe in the life you desire. Don’t make your life harder than it is, simplify your life.
I thought for the longest that I had to go through a lot before I can have a breakthrough or receive any abundance in my life. At one time, I would drown myself in self-pity.
That is bullshit.
“What we think, we become.” -Buddha
Don’t limit yourself and your potential to create the life you desire. We’re not here on this earth to make our own lives difficult. Life is full of suffering. We have to deal with the discomfort, heartbreak, suffering, sadness, and depression at one point in your life.
We must train ourselves to have a new mindset. There should be no such thing as “I can’t”. Do not tolerate situations or people who constantly stress you out for long periods of time. Take ownership of your shit. You are not a victim of your life. You are the creator.
Suggestion four: change your mindset in order to change your belief system, so you may change your life.
“See things as they are, not as we imagine they are.” -Vernon Howard
We all deal with situations differently because we all have different core beliefs. What you believe is how you live and what you are. If you believe your life is hard than it is hard. If you believe you are the creator of your life then you will do what is necessary to create your life on your terms. If you believe you deserve to be treated badly by others than you will continue to be treated badly by others.
It is you who ultimately has to make the decision to leave that relationship that no longer serves you. Don’t allow another person to make decisions for you and your life. It is up to you to leave that job that doesn’t appreciate you and all the hard work you do for them. You must know your worth and value yourself at all times.
Now if you’re saying to yourself anything along the lines of…
“This is too good to be true.”
“It’s not that easy.”
“I can’t do that.”
“You don’t know my situation, how dare you….”
That is your proof right there that you need a new mindset. I am not one to say always be happy, always be light and jumping for joy. You will feel sadness, but the key to not swim in the emotion. Let is pass. You will get angry, but don’t swim in it. Let it pass.
If you continue to swim in negativity you will attract more negativity to yourself. So make a change today!
* Step back and check in with yourself about this situation or the person(s) in your life.
* Don’t swim in your emotions. Let is pass.
* Make decisions out of love. Love for yourself and/or others.
* Get rid of your old belief system and create a new one.
* Make a change for the better.
- My name is Siedah (Si-ee-dah), writer and life coach author at www.iamlovexo.com
- I’ve suffered from depression on and off for 15 years of my life and I no longer deal with it.
- I’ve battled with social anxiety almost all my life and I no longer have it.
- I met with two therapists within a year span but it only scratched the surface
- I healed myself within a three-year span and completely changed my life