What if I told you, you can turn your fears into gold?
I don’t believe there is a such thing as being fearless. You are human and you have fears. You can either allow your fears to hold you back or use it as fuel to move forward.
I have a fear of rejection, abandonment, and public speaking. One common thread between these fears of mine was self-confidence.
All you have to do is first make a conscious decision to face those fears no matter what or how long it takes. Believing in myself, knowing my worth, knowing that my voice deserves to be heard, and knowing I-am-love allows me to get past those fears I have.
It all comes down to YOUR perspective. That was the shift that needed to take place in order to change my thinking and rationalize my emotions. IF and WHEN I change my perspective I change my world.
“You are the MAGICIAN.” -ML
One of the most powerful messages I have every received in life not too long ago from a love of mine. You and I, we have all the tools in order to get what we want. You have more power than you realize. When you start to learn yourself and the meaning behind why you do what you do you start to shift your reality.
It is that moment when you realize the powers you have within you is when the world becomes yours. It’s the moment when you turn those late night ideas into a reality. You choose when it’s time to manifest some good pure shit and build an empire for yourself.
What do you desire? What do you want?
Explore and take risks. What do you really want? What will make you happy right now in this present moment? When life throws you curve balls and you are overworked, stretched thin, and ready to bang your head against a wall, stop and ask yourself, “How do I want to feel?”
Explore your desires more by reading Danielle LaPorte author of the book, “The Desire Map”. Her book goes into depth about how you want to feel. The more analytically focused I was with obtaining my desires the more disappointed I became. Expectations are true killers sometimes. I mean, let’s be real, life throws you a million and one curve balls. Things don’t always pan out the way you envisioned them.
Sometimes there are delays. Sometimes things come to you in small increments, sometimes they don’t happen at all, and very often plans change. If you’re anything like myself, someone who is fixed and stubborn when it comes to their desires than thinking about how do you want to feel might be the best approach to setting goals for yourself and your life. It helps to learn to leave space for imagination and to be flexible.
Several years of my life was dedicated to the happiness of others. I did whatever I needed to do to keep the peace and harmony with my loved ones. I have only one question for you and although it might seem like a simple question for some it won’t be so easy for others to answer.
What do you really want? What will make you happy right now in this present moment? When life throws you curve balls and you are overworked, stretched thin, and ready to bang your head against a wall stop and ask yourself, “How do I want to feel?”
“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – Paulo Coelho
I know it sounds like a cliche, but my best advice is to follow your heart. First, focus on “what” and then focus on “how”. You must first make the decision. Think only positive thoughts. You have to be your biggest cheerleader. No one is going to root for you as much as you are going to root for you.
So cut the negative self-talk and empower yourself, push yourself. Now if you wondering about the haters and the blockers then you are thinking too hard.
The only way your star player is going to be stuck sitting on the bench is if you make the choice to do so. The ball is always in your court (always). And the moment when you stop to think so is the moment when you have pronounced the game to be over way before it has started.
We have to shift our perspective when it comes to caring what other people think and wanting to be liked by everyone. Haters are annoying ass hell, but they’re doing their job. We should allow them to continue to do their job, but not give it too much energy.
I’ve had haters since I was a young girl on the playground. Fighting the same girls over and over again for reasons I felt was bullshit. People are going to hate you because what you look like, the attention you get, what you’re wearing, what you’re driving, etc…
The easiest thing to do is keep pressing forward and allow them to hate from a distance.
Don’t let anyone, including yourself, hold you back from doing what it is you want to do. Some of us get over shit quickly and others, like myself, don’t. However, bet your ass eventually I am going to pick my ass up off that ground, start walking, and then running (metaphorically). Set a goal and start making moves forward.
- My name is Siedah (Si-ee-dah), writer and life coach author at www.iamlovexo.com
- I’ve suffered from depression on and off for 15 years of my life and I no longer deal with it.
- I’ve battled with social anxiety almost all my life and I no longer have it.
- I met with two therapists within a year span but it only scratched the surface
- I healed myself within a three-year span and completely changed my life