If you’ve been experiencing depression and social anxiety for a long period of time you might doubt you’ll get better. I understand because I’ve been there myself. Maybe you’ve been attending therapy for months to years and see very little progress.
I can understand why someone might need session over a period of time. However, I am living proof that after 15 years of struggling on and off you can prevent being depressed and cure your social anxiety yourself.
FYI – I plan to write a post specifically about the differences between a life coach and therapist within the next few weeks (I am now a certified life coach! :)).
A while back, I wrote a post about how to care less about what others think of you. It was received well and a good amount of people downloaded the handout. Caring what others say and their point of view of you could be a reason for you doubting yourself.
The #1 reason why you doubt yourself is based on how you feel about you and what you tell yourself every day.
Lately, I’ve been studying the subconscious mind and how someone can change their mindset. I was listening to a Ted Talk recently with Dandapani called Unwavering Focus.
There was an exercise used to help you become aware of how quickly you can shift your focus. In the exercise, you would be instructed to close your eyes. Become aware of the room you’re in and the chair you’re sitting on right now.
Then you would be asked to think of the details of a few memories. When you would jump to memory to memory you come to understand where you place your focus.
You’ll also notice different feelings arises based on the memory. What I took from this exercise is that my awareness can shift quickly if I want it to depending on what I focus on.
Whether you want to lose weight, gain more confidence, change careers or heal yourself from depression or anxiety you may do so by changing your focus. There is a reason why you might go to the gym for a short period of time and then quit and never reach your goal. There is a reason why you focus on trauma in your life instead of how to heal and make positive change.
What we all have in common when dealing with depression and social anxiety is we constantly tell ourselves things and ask questions that don’t benefit us.
You must change how you communicate with yourself and where you place your focus. What you focus on and where you place your awareness is extremely important to how you view yourself, others, and the events in your life.