Happy New Year!
It has been a few weeks since I last blogged. I’ve been going through a lot of ups and downs in my life. One thing I pride myself on is that I am not afraid to share my story, my mistakes, and hardships with you. I can’t bear to preach if I have never lived it.
I am perfectly me, which means I have flaws and all. I see the lessons and beauty in all life’s situations. That doesn’t mean it sucks. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. It does mean you are meant to learn from everything you experience. I am a firm believer that everything that occurs is happening for a reason and on purpose.
Have you noticed in your life that situations continuously keep happening over and over again? Maybe you keep attracting men who are abusive or your money is always unstable or you keep going to jail over and over again for similar crimes.
When you stop and become conscious of what is happening to you and why it is happening to you, it is then when you start to understand that you are in full control of your life. You are meant to learn something and take some form of responsibility for all that is happening to you. Then you can start to peel the layers of your life onion.
We are spiritual beings, having a human experience. You are down here on earth to learn lessons and become your higher self. Some people are believers and others aren’t. That is okay. This can still be applied to those who aren’t spiritual. Let me break this down to you in the most logical way possible.
Example: You keep attracting men or a man who continuously cheat or betray you in other ways.
Lesson: You have betrayed yourself. You have not put yourself first over and over again.
Solution: You must value yourself. You must love yourself first. You have to stop giving away your power. You must listen to your intuition instead of fear.
It was that difficult for me to figure out. However, when I allowed myself to recognize the cycle I was in and understand why I was continuously going through the cycle. I decided to end the cycle. It’s your responsibility to not accept what is done to you.
You must stick up for yourself and stop playing the victim. Victim sounds like this, “why do you keep doing this to me over and over again?”. It is no one else’s fault but your own that you allow someone to keep doing something to you over and over again. When I figured that out for myself when I set a boundary.
You may play victim by also avoiding confrontation for the sake of him not leaving, you may let the man dictate what should be done or not be done, you may lie to yourself and live in illusion by allowing the bullshit to continue.
When we become conscious of why we do what we do we then can face it head on and fix it. Are we bending so much because we fear to be alone, breaking up our family, or we don’t feel we are enough?
Whatever the reason is, it is nothing to be ashamed of. Acknowledge your fears and insecurities. We all have them whether we’d like to admit it or not.
Take a listen to this motivational video and it was very similar to the session I had with my spiritual guide. She told me that I am to never give my power away to anyone ever again. Whether that be a man (husband, father of my child, or boyfriend), family member, parent, or friend.
Recommendations to help you break your cycle:
- Become aware of your cycle.
- Being brave enough to walk away.
- Accept responsibility for what you keep allowing to happen to you.
- Take the time to heal yourself and take back your power.
- Find balance within yourself.
- Find balance within your environment.
- Make a conscious decision about who can stay around you and who can be with you.
- Set boundaries for the present and future.
- Take ME time!
- Be selfish in a loving way.
- Act without seeking validation from others.
- Practice mindfulness.